E. Desmond Ravenstone

Contact: desmondravenstone@yahoo.com


Area: New England


Speaking Demographics: Progressive religious communities, especially clergy and educators



  • “Understanding BDSM” – general introduction.
  • “Pastoral care for kinksters” – specific for ministers and lay pastoral counselors.
  • “Sexual Justice and BDSM: Issues and Ideas” – specific for social justice leaders in congregations, how to support kinksters against discrimination.

I generally stick to a "101" level, but can I tailor presentations to a group's specific needs and concerns.

Speaking Experience:

  • Homily: “Sacred Eros: Embodying the Divine in Our Sexualities” – September 5, 2007 – Arlington Street Church, Boston MA
  • Workshop: “Sacred Eros” – March 9 & 16, 2008 – Arlington Street Church, Boston MA
  • Sermon: “When Eros Sings: Variations on a Theme” – August 3, 2008 – Arlington Street Church, Boston MA
  • Workshop: “Understanding the BDSM Community” – TBD – Ministerial Fellowship Committee, Unitarian Universalist Association
  • Education Coordinator, New England Dungeon Society – December 2004 to June 2007
  • “Another Hue in the Rainbow: An Information Packet for UU Leaders and Congregations” – 2006; later incorporated into “BDSM Basics for UUs” section of Leather & Grace website
  • Educational video: “Coming Out Kinky: The Basics” – posted on Youtube, July 2011; recommended in “Savage Love” column, March 2012
  • Contributed case study information to “Sexuality Issues for Religious Professionals” – Religious Institute for Sexual Morality, Justice and Healing – January to April 2012
  • Co-founder and Moderator, Leather & Grace: Unitarian Universalists for BDSM Awareness – August 2011 to present 

Last updated July 20, 2012.